Rejected Children Would They Have A Strong Or Weak Personality

Writen by Lanie Pambid

The magnitude of one's character may vary from the differences in the experiences of a person's life. The manner in which the degree of pain, sufferings, success, happiness and the like is what makes a person strong or weak.

If a person was rejected in his childhood years, it may come to a point wherein he can either be strong or weak. Strong, in a sense that he would not let rejection take over him, or the feeling of rejection will not be embossed in his wits, thus rejecting the thought of rejection to strive harder not to be rejected ever again. Weak, in a sense that because of being an emotional type of person, he would just accept the fact that he will always be rejected throughout his life.

The transformation in a person's life can also be a basis. If he was rejected in the earlier part of his life and then in the latter part came to be accepted or wanted, there will be a shift in his qualities, wherein the thought of being "accepted" would give him a change in his way of thinking. The notion that he can also be accepted would give him a better outlook on his own personality. The shift in the course of the approach, from being rejected and accepted will give way to a change of attitude.

But does it really depend on how one copes with rejection?

Yes. The childhood experiences that one has gone through will be the basis of how his traits are molded into what he is now. The coping skills of a child may vary on how he was able to survive his environment. Let's say for example, a child was rejected by his friends, but when he comes home, his parents would uplift his spirits and would comfort him, the feeling of rejection would be sheltered, thus the child now has a means of forgetting the rejection that he has just received from his friends.

The parents play a big role in the growth of their children, thus they are the ones the child runs to for comfort. But if the parents themselves are the ones rejecting their own child then the child would not have a place to go to but to just accept the fact that nobody would reassure acceptance, thus becoming weak. Rejection from the outside (friends, environment, etc.) but is nurtured by acceptance in the inside (family, house) can modulate the child's confidence that there is what we call a "rescue", thus making him strong.

Throughout the life of your child, were you able to nurture him to be a stronger person? Or were you just too busy with your job that you forget to realize the fact that your child is already becoming weaker?

Parents should always have time for their children, because they play a big role on how their children would turn out to be.